tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282212639792870543.post6132803340934761017..comments2023-10-01T04:05:43.215-07:00Comments on <center>GraceWatch</center>: Trying the Nurtured Heart ApproachUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282212639792870543.post-72761483882252765872011-04-18T19:14:39.095-07:002011-04-18T19:14:39.095-07:00I just got this book, am reading it now. It was ni...I just got this book, am reading it now. It was nice to read your summary of it and hear how you've had success. We struggle with my 4 year old. Can I ask how things are going now? Did you continue with the approach?<br />Thanks!candiceandpathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16922783322024831666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282212639792870543.post-46083055067178951732011-04-11T18:17:46.252-07:002011-04-11T18:17:46.252-07:00My children and I enjoyed watching this. Thank yo...My children and I enjoyed watching this. Thank you for sharing your sweeties!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282212639792870543.post-31148442776692984762010-12-10T20:29:45.905-08:002010-12-10T20:29:45.905-08:00Becky, it's great to hear that you're alre...Becky, it's great to hear that you're already implementing much of this strategy -- especially the positive reinforcement stuff. It's not promised as a cure-all, but I have to say that it sure changes the mood in the house when most of the words coming out of our mouths are positive rather than negative observations.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06212299712330595121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282212639792870543.post-73836464084909171012010-12-10T20:27:55.558-08:002010-12-10T20:27:55.558-08:00Kiwi Nomad, building on your comment, I am struck ...Kiwi Nomad, building on your comment, I am struck by what a "shift" it takes on my part to put as much energy into the positive reinforcement as I do into the negative limit-setting. As the authors of this book point out, usually when the kids are good, we are pretty content to get going doing something else! Remembering to notice their good behavior also seems to be a good spiritual practice -- honing that inner eye to look for the positive rather than the negative.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06212299712330595121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282212639792870543.post-80852570374385604342010-12-09T10:32:51.068-08:002010-12-09T10:32:51.068-08:00This made me think of the old catch-phrase from wh...This made me think of the old catch-phrase from when I was at Teachers' College: "Catch them when they're good". I know it is a phrase that has often come back to me when struggling with a child's behaviour in the classroom. It was too easy to be dragged down a negative road where you were always 'telling them off'. But if you could start focusing on what they were doing 'right' and praising them instead, it always worked. What struck me from this account was how specific you are with the praise- and clearly it is what is most helpful...Kiwi Nomadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351034705766073667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282212639792870543.post-77941685516694995532010-12-09T07:37:49.434-08:002010-12-09T07:37:49.434-08:00Jerry
The first child that popped into my head as...Jerry<br /><br />The first child that popped into my head as I read this is your oldest nephew (my child--not Mary's!)<br /><br />Lately we have been dealing with his EXPLOSIVE temper--it has gotten very bad. <br /><br />I'm happy to see that through common sense, Dennis and I have already started to implement these steps w/o even realizing that it's a strategy from a book. I wouldn't say we have seen instant results (the autistic child is so much more different from the "typical" child, even if the autism is mild) but the household is more peaceful. If we see that he's starting to lose his cool, we put him in a "cool down" in his room where he can cool off and come out when he's ready. When he is cooled off, that is when we enforce discipline if necessary (screaming at someone, throwing something.) He is starting to learn to recognize his feelings (something autistic children struggle with) and the boundaries he has.<br /><br />We also have been making sure to note when he has controlled himself or noted that he needs help controlling his temper.<br /><br />Thanks for bringing this up--it's encouraging to see that this works for other people as well. It's just common sense, I would think, and treating your child as you should, with respect, but still teaching them--not screaming at them.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10451590537173713861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4282212639792870543.post-25607621331540113182010-12-09T07:02:52.371-08:002010-12-09T07:02:52.371-08:00Interesting Read. I struggle with an intense chil...Interesting Read. I struggle with an intense child, and I agree, his love is also intensified. I'm going to check into more of this NHA. Thanks!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06284542068599289410noreply@blogger.com